Adding another person to the bedroom can give couples and singles alike a thrill. However, a threesome can also be a minefield of insecurities and miscommunication.
To make sure the experience is enjoyable for everyone involved, start off with a pre-threesome discussion about personal and sexual boundaries. Here are some tips to help you get started: 1. Talk about penetration ahead of time.
1. Make sure everyone’s on the same page.
A threesome can be a great way to spice things up with your partner and/or experiment with new sexual positions. But it’s important that all parties involved are on the same page about what you want from the experience, and how it will be facilitated.
For example, if your partner wants to play with their guest, but doesn’t want to go down on them or penetrate them, it could lead to a painful and frustrating experience for everyone. To avoid these pitfalls, it’s best to discuss and agree upon your safer sex rules before the sex even starts.
To help with this, try listening to a podcast or reading an erotic story together about threesomes and group sex. Listening to these naughty stories will help you gauge your partner’s temperature and find out how much they are into the idea of trying something new. Afterwards, talk about the experience openly to alleviate any jealousy or awkwardness. This will also allow you to determine if you want threesomes to be a regular part of your relationship or a one-time thing.
2. Don’t get too friendly with the third person.
Whether you’re a lesbian couple who wants to add a third person into your menage a trois, or a heterosexual couple looking to spice things up by inviting in another partner, there are many factors to consider. It’s important to talk about how your relationships can handle this type of sexual play, and it’s equally as crucial to discuss the safer sex rules that everyone feels comfortable with.
For example, some couples like to include oral sex as part of their threesomes, while others are more comfortable with penetrative sex. These are all things that should be decided on before a session even begins.
And after a threesome, it’s important to debrief with your partner about how the experience went—it can help alleviate jealousy and confusion. It’s also a good idea to talk about whether you want to make this a regular thing or if it was just a one-off experiment. With clear communication and careful planning, threesomes can be an exciting way to explore your sexuality and deepen your intimacy with your long-term partner.
3. Don’t leave hickies on the third person.
A threesome can be an incredible sexual experience for all parties. It’s no wonder that group sex is the most common sexual fantasy for men and women; it can reignite feelings of passion in your relationship, or introduce you to new forms of pleasure. But to make sure everyone has a good time, there are some things you should know about inviting a third person into your sack.
The first thing you’ll want to do is sit down with your partner and the third person and discuss boundaries and ground rules. You’ll also want to agree on which sex acts you all are comfortable performing and receiving. This can include everything from oral sex to BDSM play. It’s also important to discuss barrier methods and lubrication.
Once the threesome is over, it’s also a good idea to debrief with your partners about what you both liked and didn’t like. This can help alleviate jealousy or awkwardness and give you a clearer picture of whether you’d like to make threesomes a regular part of your sex life.
4. Don’t cross boundaries.
When it comes to threesomes, communication is key. Before you ever engage in one, talk openly about your fantasies and boundaries. The more you can discuss these things in advance, the less jealousy will surface during your group sex.
You’ll also want to make sure you and your partner have discussed safe sex practices with the third person. This is especially important if you’re in a couple and you’re bringing in someone who isn’t part of your regular relationship. This will ensure that you’re leaving your souvenirs as hot memories, not STIs or unintended pregnancies.
Another common mistake that people make is crossing boundaries in a threesome. This can be done through flirting, touching, and other non-sexual actions. It’s always best to avoid these kinds of things, but it’s even more important to speak up if something isn’t right. You should never feel like you’re not allowed to express how uncomfortable you are in the heat of the moment. This way, everyone involved knows what is and isn’t acceptable. This will help to minimize any feelings of regret or betrayal down the road.
5. Don’t be hypersensitive.
In a threesome, it’s important to communicate clearly with everyone involved. Regardless of whether you’re in a relationship or not, it’s vital that you and the third person are on the same page about your boundaries before sex. This way, the only souvenirs of your evening are hot memories and not STIs or unintended pregnancy. It’s also smart to discuss safer sex devices, like condoms and dental dams, before you start making out.
Jealousy will likely affect any couple participating in a threesome, but communication can alleviate it. Don’t get too friendly with the third person after your night of sex and make sure you don’t spend more time cuddling them than your partner (even if it makes you feel horny).
While threesomes can be a great way to explore new forms of pleasure, they aren’t always for everyone. If you’re considering a threesome to breathe life back into your relationship or spark sexy romance, it’s probably best to hold off for a while and focus on your romantic connections with one another. You’ll find that threesomes can be just as sexy without being a sexual threat to your relationship.
